Michal – The Godly Woman (V)

I Sam.19:10-17
David made a big impression after he killed Goliath. He was a hero, and everybody loved him. Well, everybody that is, except the insecure king of Israel, Saul. Success can have a downside.

Some “irregularities” had been developing in David’s relationship with his father-in-law. These have been growing for some time but of course, David has probably wanted to ignore them or at least, down-play them. They are embarressing to him, for they reflect badly on the King, and he doesn’t want to dwell on, or highlight the faults of someone in such a position, who also happens to be his father in law. His desire to preserve the honour of the king, is good; but he’d better be careful.

Things come to a head quickly. Saul tries to kill David with a spear, but David escapes to his home. Is he safe here? It seems as though he is, but he has some nagging concerns about Saul, which he would rather ignore. Nonetheless, he talks about this with Michal. Hasn’t a pattern developed now? She knows her father, and she has heard all the talk in the community, ever since David’s stunning battlefield triumph: “Saul has killed his thousands, and David his ten thousands” (I Sam.18:7).

Like David, she knows there’s a problem with her father. But unlike David (who is perhaps, in this awkward relationship with her father, inclined to vacillate), she knows the solution. She has one sentence of blunt advice for her brave but trusting husband: “If you do not save your life tonight, tomorrow you will be put to death” (v.11).

How Michal came to know the danger her husband was in does not appear …she got David out of the danger. She told him how imminent the peril was …she told him that if the sun saw him there next morning it would never see him more.[1]

In order for any woman to verbally help her husband, two things have to happen. Firstly, she has to be willing to speak what is on her mind to him. Yes, she has a responsibility to submit to him, but that is not the end of the story. She has it in her heart from God, the way she was made, TO HELP HIM, and there is more to helping, than just submission.

The Psalmist wrote that, “the Lord is for me among those who help me…” (Ps.118:7).

A woman has a perspective on the issues of life that may be from God, that her husband does not have, and he is a fool if he ignores the fact that from the beginning, God said that “it isn’t good for a man to be alone” (Gen.2:18). God said that man alone (that is, without others), is in a “not good” state. That’s what she’s there for! To “do him good…”(Prov.31:12).

Secondly, he has to be willing to listen to her. Will she always be right? Probably not. She after all, is as human as he is. She makes mistakes, too. The headship, decision-making and ultimate responsibility is with him, but he has her with him, she is “one flesh” with him, as a First Confidant and Counselor.

To be forewarned is to be forearmed.

David listens to her. Michal helps him out the window, and he escapes. Next day, Saul’s messengers come to get David, but Saul has been outsmarted. By David? Well, in the context of “one flesh,” you could say that. But the credit (truth be known), lay with his husband-helping wife! One prudent, advisory sentence from her saved him.

Michal’s warning to David, and how he should respond, should show every husband the value of a godly wife.

There’s a message here for every husband and wife. Will we hear it?


[1] Matthew Henry’s Commentary, 1708, (Vol.II), p.386.

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